Real-World Guide to Internet Dating
by Ian Lewis
The Real-World Guide to Internet Dating.
It's easy to believe that the entire population of the internet dating world is
made up of losers with no personality, or mad freaks with stalking tendencies.
While it's a sad fact that there are a few undesirables out there, they are a
minority they don't accurately represent the wider internet dating community. In
fact, a varied range of people use online dating agencies for many reasons. It's
the perfect solution for those who find it difficult and intimidating to meet
new people face-to-face; those that have a busy career, restrictive family
commitments or have just moved to a new area.
Check them out first. Finding a love match online has many advantages over
searching for Mr/Mrs Right down the local pub or nightclub. How many times have
you checked out someone gorgeous on a night out, exchanged a few words and
realised they could make reading a telephone book the height of risqué fun? Or
that they're simply a loser? When you use an internet dating agency, you have
access to thousands of photo/biog profiles. You can SEE who you fancy and then
get to know them first by chatting online. Chatting quickly sorts out the mind
numbingly tedious from the ones who make every part of your body tingle with
anticipation.
Make an effort. Attracting your dream date is easy, as long as you take the time
to make an effort. Your photo is the first impression people get of you,
together with your profile. They are your marketing tools. You have one second
to attract attention, so think carefully about what they say about you.
If your photo is a quick, poorly-lit snap showing you in slob-about clothes
after a week of insomnia and a hangover from hell, then it's about as enticing
as licking last week's grease off a chip pan. Men are primarily attracted to a
woman's physical appearance, so make an effort to exude your personality through
your photo (this doesn't mean dress up in a comedy clown outfit). And a word to
the men: women will scan your profiles looking for signs that you're funny,
caring and responsible. They avoid those who seem egotistical or spend 24:7 with
their mates (so avoid things like I have three passions: beer, football and beer
and football in the pub).
Treat them gently. The quality and tone of your emails will gain someone's trust
to meet you in person. Keep it light hearted and match the responses of the
person you are trying to get to know. Don't force up the tempo within the first
few contacts by offering yourself on a plate covered in vanilla ice cream. It's
deeply unattractive to appear needy, desperate or pushy. Keep it flirty and
cheeky rather than sordid and blunt. I've had a lot of first contact emails
saying how much 'pleasure' I can be guaranteed. You're offering to get my rocks
off already, even though you know nothing about me? Internet dating doesn't mean
there is no room for romance and courtship!
Remember to be nice to people, even if you don't fancy them. They don't need a
good kicking when they have summoned up the courage to contact you. I remember a
friend telling me that she'd dumped a date who confided that he had an extreme
body hair problem by sending him an email saying, 'Hair today, gone tomorrow.'
Pure evil.
Although there are many genuine people out there, it's worth observing the
self-preservation internet code. Don't give out your personal details (full
name, landline number, address, where you work or where you go out regularly).
When you are ready to meet someone, arrange to meet in a busy public place and
make sure you tell someone where you are going.
It's easy to date online safely and with success, as long as you follow these
simple rules. Happy dating!
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