"Who's the Boss?" 10 ways to start taking control (time management, goal
setting, record tracking)
by Success University Team Leader
At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit
Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD
develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our
challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook
then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.
Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths
and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn,
allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and
stuck. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help
you shift into more positive thinking patterns:
1. Take Good Care of Yourself It's much easier to be positive when you are
eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.
2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For Stresses and challenges
don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things
that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the
good things will make a huge difference.
3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions A fear of not being liked or
accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but
our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family
member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are
secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them.
Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof
that there is something to worry about.
4. Refrain from Using Absolutes Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS
late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in
absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is,
and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of
delivering.
5. Detach From Negative Thoughts Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if
you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach
from it, witness it, and don't follow it.
6. Squash the "ANTs" In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr.
Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad
thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they
must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When
you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and
squash them!
7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family) You don't
have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical
contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One
research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the
arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these
customers than from the ones she didn't touch!
8. Increase Your Social Activity By increasing social activity, you decrease
loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive
energy will affect you in a positive way!
9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person Everyone feels good
after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The
more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in
return.
10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination If you find yourself ruminating,
a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do
something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something
negative. It's never productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented,
it's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a
walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on
some music.
When it comes to the corporate world, protocol is pretty much the religion. To
know the things needed to do are the basics of productivity, but interaction and
having a steady mind makes up the entire thing to true productivity. There are
those who seem to work well even under pressure, but they're uncommon ones and
we are human and imperfect. To get these little things like stress under our
skins won't solve our problems. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit
that we're turning to be workaholics than tell ourselves that we're not doing
our best.
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